Just what is BDSM??
True BDSM is consentual, strengthening, and sustaining; true degradation is *not* 
Therein lies the difference, and it is truly an all-important difference.

New Content added: 05/21/04

B&D = "bondage & discipline"
D/s ="Dominance & submission"
S&M = "sadism & masochism"

Bondage : Restraining someone by use of ropes, hand cuffs or various other articles.
Discipline : A game where one person *punishes* another.
Dominance & Submission: D&S is an erotic power game, where one person gets off on the thrill of controlling, the other on the thrill of being controlled.
Sadism :a person who likes to give intense stimulation (physical or mental) or pain to another.
Masochism :a person who likes to recieve intense stimulation (physical or mental) or pain.

Often people approach BDSM with nothing but negative stereotypes in their mind. The will-less slave dominated by the overbearing thoughtless master. The pervert who enjoys being hit because he thinks he deserves no better. These images, negatively charged with connotations of abuse, DO NOT reflect the reality of consensual BDSM!

Once you actually look at people who are involved in BDSM, and at what they do, you realize that what is actually happening is a powerful expression of love, which expands into sensual realms outside the ordinary. Of course there are the fair share of abusers and people wanting to be abused (now dont get flame ME, but face it.. there are those individuals that have so little self esteem that they do look for abusive type relationships).  Like everything and everyone in this life, there are good and bad. We all need to realize that educating ourselves and those around us is the only way for the *vanilla* people to understand that BDSM is not a evil type of relationship. That it is CONSENTUAL.

Too often I am finding people who see only this "Man is the MASTER, woman is the slave" type relationship! NOT! That is only a SMALL portion of the types of BDSM relationships.  There are Dominants, Switches and submissives, they are not always male or female, hell.... in this as many lifestyles gender doesn't matter! There are probably just as many male submissives, men working white colar jobs, who want to kneels at Mistresses feet and forget all the pressures and decisions of the day. Then there are the submissive women... who yes, do stay at home and be the little housewife type thing.

I don't want to try to explain this lifestyle to anyone... this is more just a place for me to share my thoughts and things I've read with others. If you're new to all of this... then you'd probably do much better by searching for more sights. If you just want to peek into my brain and such... then feel free to enjoy what I've posted.

Articles 2 Read

[Check out my other writtings and such in the poetry/prose section]

Books 2 Read

• Market Place Trilogy

• The Complete Reprint of John Willie’s Bizarre

Places 2 Go

• NOW/SM National Organization for Women S/M support site
• Different Loving - Gloria Brames site about D/s & BDSM lifestyle
• SMART - SadoMasochists Alliance Real Time of NE Ohio <Cleveland>
• Society of Janus
• The Stock Room ~ great source of bdsm fetish stuff!
• Pleasure Whips - cats and tails..bdsm toys.
• The Castle Realm - D/s resources

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