For me personally, being bisexual just means that I recognize within myself the ability to love or to be physically attracted to members of both genders. And that I am able to appreciate both genders sexually. I don't find gender to matter, it's a persons personality that I notice first. She/he might be a bit rebellious, a bit out of the main stream. I love a person for who they are - not their gender.  How perfect can it be? A Ying/Yang sexuality.   For me, I think it's the "perfect" way to be! Why choose? <smile> Course... that is NOT to mean I am on the prowl and hit upon every lady  I meet!! I have lots of friends whom I would never dream of hitting on (male and female)!

"I can't accept an ethic that accepts exclusive heterosexuals or homosexuals because they "were made that way",
but condemns bisexuals for making the "wrong choice". To me this "choice" is like asking "would you like to cut
off your left hand or your right hand?" ~ Albert Lunde

I think  there is a right and noble balance, a yin-yang, to the Universe that manifests in male and female aspects. I think eveyrone has these aspects. I think bisexuals are the manifesation of a balanced soul, ok maybe that sounds a bit crazy, but that's my thinking! I like to think that I do a good job of being a balanced being  of male and female energy.  From that energy I think comes my desires...  from my desires my sexuality? Most people consider sexuality to be an extension of love. It's that way for me anyways, it's not *just* some idea of sex that I want from a man or a woman, it's the relationship.  I'm not interested in casual sex, or sex for sex's sake. I like to fall in love, I want to fall in love. I love my husband DEARLY. I have felt that way about only a few women, but I do hope someday to have a soul mate.   How can I want to have my husband and a woman love too???   That lead me/us to meet  people who are polyamorous. Polyfolk find within themselves the capacity to love more than one person at a time. This can often be confusing as our society denies the reality of this possibility, but how can love be measured? How can one stop their heart from feeling? Why is love ever wrong?

I am a living example, among many others, that this lifestyle does work! it is possible! It is NOT cheating on my marriage. It is not ~wrong/evil/etc~

I think before religion, before social norms <chains>, before we give in to what our friends and family say, from the things  we've been raised with, before ALL else is considered,   EVERYONE should look within themselves, and find their true selves, and accept themselves for however they are.

"I have touched her hair and found it silk. I have caressed her skin and found it velvet. I have kissed her lips and found them honey sweet. I have spilled my heart and found no reason for remorse. Only the echo of my heart in hers."  ~ a diary entry I wrote, pixel.

Articles 2 Read

Books 2 Read

• Fat Girl Dances With Rocks

• What Women Want

• A Movement of Eros 25 Years of Lesbian Erotica

Places 2 Visit

• BI-ORG ~ for all bisexuals everywhere
• Fat Girl
• KWEB - For Kinky Girls
• Gay & Lesbian Humor, Poetry & Making Scenes

• Sapphic Ink - Lesbian e-zine